We Hope This Reaches You in Time

Don’t make excuses for someone not reciprocating what you give.

I want to love life like I once did

Love, I want no more of you
I resent what I’ve allowed you to do to me

Holding on to the wrong person is like expecting the desert to grow roses.

Most men will never be strong enough to choose you. And that’s not your issue. You never lose when a weak man loses his position in your life.

You’re moving on, you’re letting go, but you still miss him because you genuinely cared.
I want to speak directly to you because you’ve been so hard on yourself this year. I know you entered this year with many hopes and dreams. You wanted something different, you were tired of heartache. Tired of pain, weary from fighting for someone who refused to fight for you.

I think we need to change this narrative that tells us that the best way to forget a person is to move on to the next one. People go from relationship to relationship without realizing they’re pretty much dating the same kind of person over and over again.

You hold on cause you’re hoping that person comes back; and when they don’t, you mourn. You mourn time, the effort, and ultimately this dream in your head where you had it all figured out. It happens. Don’t let it defeat you.

You don’t have to be or feel perfect every single day. It’s about being kind to yourself and forgiving when you aren’t. Self-love is loving yourself in all conditions.

We’re hard on ourselves when things don’t work out. It’s not enough that it didn’t go the way we thought; we have to punish ourselves for it. It’s our fault that we weren’t what someone wanted or needed. There has to be something wrong with us. We’re lacking in some way. I think we need to stop putting ourselves down every time someone can’t see something within us. Ok, things ended, it hurts, I get that. Chalking it all up to you somehow being “lesser than” or anything of the sort is detrimental. You’re not going to be compatible with every single person you find yourself interested in; that’s ok. You just need to realize that it is ok and learn what you will from the experience without tearing yourself down in the process.