Oprah Winfrey

interpersonal rupture and repair is good for building resilience.

Our stress-response systems are drained by constantly monitoring the sensory cacophony of the modern world:

In our work, we find that the best predictor of your current mental health is your current “relational health,”

our work, we find that the best predictor of your current mental health is your current “relational health,” or connectedness.

In our work, we find that the best predictor of your current mental health is your current “relational health,” or connectedness.

One study documented a 40 percent increase in psychopathology in American college students over the last thirty years; the authors
suggest that this is related to “cultural shifts towards extrinsic goals such as materialism and status and away from intrinsic goals, such as community, meaning in life, and affiliation.”

Our society’s transgenerational social fabric is fraying. We’re disconnecting. I think that’s making us more vulnerable to adversity, and I think it’s a significant factor in the increases in anxiety, suicide, and depression we are seeing currently, even before the COVID-19 pandemic.

One of our major findings is that in determining someone’s current mental health, the history of their childhood
relational health—their connectedness—is as important as, if not more important than, their history of adversity.

we use
material things rather than relationships as rewards.

No-phone zones and no-phone times, proper “dosing” and spacing of screen time, and so forth