Jefferson A. Singer

The seeds for this work were planted many years ago when Linda Bean was transcribing some of my lectures and encouraged me to write a book. She patiently labored through years of arc

They have no effect on anything or anybody, except you. They are simply making you feel better or worse about what is going on now, what has gone on in the past, or what might go on in the future. If you spend your time hoping that it doesn’t rain tomorrow, you are wasting your time

You will someday come to see that there is no use for that incessant internal chatter, and there is no reason to constantly attempt to figure everything out. Eventually you will see that the real cause of problems is not life itself. It’s the commotion the mind makes about life that really causes problems.

True personal growth is about transcending the part of you that is not okay and needs protection.

objectively watch your problems instead of being lost in them.

ou will not be able to solve anything outside until you own how the situation affects you inside.

What you’ll notice is that you’re watching a human being’s personality with all its strengths and weaknesses.

But closing your heart does not really protect you from anything; it just cuts you off from your source of energy.

Do not let anything that happens in life be important enough that you’re willing to close your heart over it.

No. I’m not going to close. I’m going to relax. I’m going to let this situation take place and be there with it.” Honor and respect the situation, and deal with it.