Stand Up For Yourself, Set Boundaries, & Stop Pleasing Others

People call them doormats, pushovers, or people-pleasers, but whatever they’re called, they all seem to have the same playbook: be nice, be helpful, be kind, and no matter what you do, never ever say no

You agree to unreasonable demands to keep the peace . . . but then grow resentful about it anyway

Try the “separation of tasks” exercise above and consciously choose to let go of things that are not your responsibility and not under your control.

Be your own mother (give yourself unconditional compassion and love) and your own father (protect yourself with solid boundaries—and defend them!)

Stop explaining yourself or justifying your choices. You don’t owe that to people

They also needed to put their authentic selves and their feelings on the back burner

“It’s up to them to decide if they like me or not.”

Remind yourself that neutral is not negative.

people are living their own lives, which has nothing to do with you!

I like you,” it’s not all that different from them saying “I prefer strawberry ice cream to chocolate.”